My Focus Testimony

Another hectic Saturday as usual, after a long week of driving traffic to the company’s website and building CVs/Resumes for customers who made purchases during the week. I opened my laptop and straight to my mail to check pending orders, thank God, I am free today (Zero order), also to google analytics to discover I had zero session as at 10 am. This is crazy! Am I expected to drive traffic every day?  I visited @resumesng on Instagram and Facebook pages, lots of direct messages awaiting my replies; I replied all and decided to take the day off.


Am having fun today, am going to do the unusual (I cannot come and kill myself), probably will propose to that girlfriend I’ve been admiring for so long, a sweet, soft-spoken fair lady (don’t even have the courage to woo her), I called my friend Kunle, told him the plans and he agreed to follow me but he asked “where did you get this courage from?”  I replied, “Money is pushing me, bro, money gave me the courage and boldness, I think I can propose and seek her consent today. I bought a very neat 2010 Toyota Camry from my neighbour who relocated to the UK last week for N600, 000, I had this titanium engagement ring I bought 3 years ago to propose to my then girlfriend, but she fucked up and we parted ways, and am calling a “gan-gan” drummer friend to help disturb her class while I dance and propose to her in front of her friends and course mates. She will be forced to say yes seeing the ring accompanied by a car key.” Wow! He replied, “You have this well planned already, I can’t wait to witness this.”


I freshened up quickly and drove straight to pick kunle and the drummer. I called my per-time student girlfriend to know where she was and immediately we moved to her lecture hall in Unilag, unfortunately, the lecturer was about entering the hall when we got there, immediately, Kunle walked up to him and told him the plans, and the lecturer as a “Soji man” agreed but said we should enter after 20 minutes to get a perfect distraction. We agreed and waited patiently.


It was a day full of dramas as the 3 clowns entered the hall to show our stupidities, the students were entertained because we entered as soon as the lecturer was about to start a test and the drama averted it.  All eyes on Ajoke as the gan-gan drum keeps calling her name and sending signals ( “Ajo-ke, Ajo-ke, ore re wa fi ebun nla nla ta e lo re loni” Kunle was interpreting immediately after the sound “Ajo-ke, Ajo-ke, your friend is here to present you a big and precious gift” the drama went on with perfect interpretations from kunle.


Ajoke was surprised because she has never seen me that happy. I located her seat and moved closer to her and she whispered: “are you up to something?” I went straight on one knee and gave her the car key, brought out the engagement ring, opened it and asked her the common question “Ajoke, will you marry me?” while she was still smiling and feeling loved over the loud voices of “yes, yes” from her course mates, my phone beeped trice (it was a résumé makeover order alerts of N10, 000 each from three customers), I opened my eyes to discovered I had been in a deep sleep.


Immediately I heard a voice from the corner of my room saying “You are losing focus, you still have a lot to do. Don’t be distracted by that mammy water, she is there to take you off focus.” Was wondering who was speaking to me, then I realized am still closer to God and dream is one of the avenues he speaks to be.


Immediately I jumped out of bed and opened my hibernated laptop to discovered my google analytics was what I checked last before going to sleep and my session had increased greatly from the blog post I pushed yesterday (


I am happy I accomplished my task today by meeting my session target from my yesterday’s post push. Though, I still have three Resumes to deliver before the end of tomorrow. I Pray I don’t get distracted anymore.


Adelere Adeyemi

Get Out of My Office

Ebele stepped into her boss’ office, and before she could explain why she wanted to see him, he bellowed: “Please get out of my office!!!” Ebele was deflated. She looked around to see if anyone was listening or looking and managed to force the tears (that were almost running down her eyes) in as she hurriedly left, scared that her boss might call her back and rain abuses on her like he always did.


On second thoughts, she wondered, “Why should I allow this bother me? I should be used to this by now.” Ebele recalled the first time her boss spoke to her in a demeaning manner. She wept like a baby and tried to prevent her colleagues from noticing. However, one of them did, and begged her to stop crying, advising her to get used to it. Ebele replied: “Get used to it??? Hmmmmn.” She quickly wiped her tears, but still had to go somewhere else to continue crying since her eyes were still heavy and she needed to cry some more to feel better.


Every time Ebele’s boss demeaned her, she asked herself how long she would remain in an environment that ‘haunts’ her. She understood that everyone goes through challenges in the workplace, but her experience in this particular organisation was ‘too bad’. It was affecting her emotional well-being and even her relationships outside of work. Finally, she decided to resign! First, she no longer enjoyed the job. Second, she had a boss who was deriving sadistic pleasure from treating her like garbage and consistently declaring she would never amount to anything good. It was a clear sign that she had to leave the toxic work environment for good before it completely shattered her self-confidence and prospects for better opportunities elsewhere. She said to herself, “This Company is not meant for me.”


Though, some people might ask her why she worked in company A for just 2 months, Company B for 3 months and Company Z for 4 months, she reasoned that any forward-looking company deserving of her skills would hire her for her skill-set and not necessarily the length of time she had stayed with any company. Today, she is glad she made that split-second decision. She now works in a much better environment and has a sane boss who has restored her peace of mind and confidence.



No employer is worth sacrificing your peace of mind, your health, your family, your career and most importantly, GOD for. You must think of yourself first before any employer so that you can make the decisions that are best for you (in sanity)


A good employer will not calculate your length of stay in your previous workplace to determine how productive you would be and what you would bring to the table.



Putting fear in your employees is a bad leadership style. You would end up losing your best hands every now and then. Let’s always consider the fact that no one started as a champion. In essence, employers were once employees. Most importantly, do not forget your employee today might be a boss to you/children tomorrow. What goes around comes around. When that time comes, how will you feel? What you do today may just determine how tomorrow will play out.


Credit: Chekwube Uchea (MSc., ACIPM- HRPL)

HR Consultant | Recruiter | Industrial Sociologist | Researcher | Analyst: HR & People Solutions at Alan and Grant